 Fear is the mind-killer.
- Frank Herbert, Dune Lately, this line has stuck with me like a mantra. Fear drives so much of what we do. Fear of change Fear of discomfort Fear of pain Fear of lack, of want Fear of the unknown Fear of not being good enough Fear of not being capable Fear of failure People are running around afraid Letting that fear drive their decisions Allowing that fear to dictate their lives Giving that fear the authority and power to keep them in place or move them away This fear is manipulated by marketing Manipulated by so called news sustained and driven by employers Work spaces Peer groups Belief systems It collects It gathers and festers in the mind and heart crippling Immobilizing Keeping you in the same seemingly safe small space Watching your dreams and desires - worse - your potential - die, as someone from the outside looking in Wishing wanting “If only…” “One day…” Fuck that shit Self confidence destroys fear. When you know who you are, or at least who you want to be, and you’re dedicated, focused, and driven on that path the path of becoming something other something better something wonderfully beyond the scope of most people’s myopic vision then you are able to meet that fear with purpose You are able to rein it in and bring it to heel and use it as inspiration inspiration that you know you are on the right path Because you are moving away from comfort and safety - into unknown and new territory This is where, if you stay true, you will learn to grow and thrive This is where mental and spiritual toughness is built This is where the mind and the will become harder than the circumstances you meet It is lonely It is painful It is terrible in its difficulty And it is sacrificial in its consistent and continual execution But this is where you build your world your life your body your mind according to your will and in line with your values This is freedom And it is beautiful “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” - Frank Herbert, Dune
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 I don’t like the fitness industry.
I’m tired of the garishness and narcissism so often displayed across social media platforms that is taken in, consumed, and internalized by the masses. I’m tired of twenty something year old brand ambassadors pushing products and systems that they have no experience applying to anyone outside of themselves. I’m tired of overnight trainers selling low priced, low quality, one size fits all online training programs to clients who can’t see past a digital image. I’m tired of flashy exercises done for entertainment value whose efficacy begins and ends with pushing an online presence with likes and followers. This has all wore me down to the point of being beyond tired with this “industry “. This has become a circus I don’t want to be a part of. Training, for me, is part of a belief system. If approached and applied correctly, it is an incredibly useful tool for self discovery and self creation. The need and desire for strength - physical, mental, and spiritual - is a tangible thing within me. It has become a driving force. It has become something bigger than the mere act of showing up and getting work done. It has become a holy mission, a sacred journey of self creation in which the physical act of training is merely a part - albeit an incredibly important one. As time goes on - as I develop the body, mind, and spirit in the forge of this process; I find an increasing desire to be only around like minded people. I want less to do with those who despise the path of physical and mental development. Their mindset and attitudes poison the well, so to speak. Trying to work with individuals with a quick fix mindset, bargain shoppers, or the existential ADD that seems to run prevalent with anything lasting longer than 8-12 weeks is soul crushing. I don’t want to run a gym anymore. I want an exclusive club. I want a group of people who feel they are someplace special - someplace sacred to their work when they walk through the door. I want to work with the ones dedicated to their own practice of self creation, ones who are willing to sacrifice on the altar of iron and blood, so that they can take one step closer to becoming what they want. For those individuals who are driven, who are ready to be steadfast and unfaltering in their dedication to themselves and their work, this place is for you.  In the midst of running a business, programming clients, buying gifts, wrapping gifts, and putting the finishing touches on a hand made project -
I managed to get in my planned training session for the day. I was tired from the lack of sleep and extra activity that comes with this time of year. I was feeling beat up from the volume of work in my training combined, no doubt, with limited recovery. I thought about skipping - Pick things up the next day. I thought about cutting it short - Trim down my supplemental work. Instead, I finished my session. I did what was necessary. I set a new personal best. I did what I needed to move forward. I am not crazy, obsessed, or extreme. I am dedicated. I am dedicated because training is both a part of who I am and who I want to become. Training is one segment in a process of self improvement. It is the simplest, rawest, and most honest method of self overcoming. When you think you're close to the edge, And you consider cutting it short - Giving up and quitting, You find your inner voice - A true voice Reminding you that you're ok. You're not dying, failing, or even close. You're just a little tired. You have this in your grasp. That's when you find the eye of the storm. And your mind is clear. This is just one of the gifts of training. Being mentally tough will help you find the voice of truth when things get difficult. It will help you find a way when there seems to be none. Being able to mentally meet challenges and overcome them is a transcendent ability. Few seem to possess it today. The mind is where you win or lose. The mind drives you to success or dooms you to failure and defeat. If you can master that - you're on your way to achieving whatever you want. It's an ongoing process of work that never ends. The trick is to realize that the work and the result coexist together.  Less than one week until Christmas.
It's easy to let go of everything that matters, And let consumerism engulf you. No one will blame you. It's pretty much the norm. People who maintain their disciplines and practices throughout the ups and downs in their schedules and lives are the outliers and oddities, Living on the edges of what is viewed by the whole as normal. Looked upon as "extreme", "fanatical", and "obsessed", They are regarded as something so outside of regular behavior, Their actions, habits, and practices are deemed unnatural and excessive. As if having discipline that carries you through changing times, feelings, and beliefs is a ridiculous concept for a so called adult. The reality is - you’re either about something or not. You’re either making progress or falling back. Completely giving up on anything that moves you forward until a better time is weak minded escapism. This is the norm in today’s society of fast, easy, and entertaining. The truth is these people’s expectations are childish. They want a specific outcome, But only if it comes in an easy and convenient package. The unwillingness to go the distance and find a way through the obstacles in the way shines a light on their truth. They do not have the strength, courage, or vision to grasp what they desire and bring it to life. Like a child, they’re waiting for it to be handed down to them, and placed in their hand. Their desires, dreams, and goals will wither and fade, As their bodies, minds, and spirits follow. And they will be remembered for no great example to anyone. Just another mass consumer. Destined to mediocrity and the void.  Quitting is easy.
Giving up is easier than working to find another way - a better way. It takes courage to stand up to failure. It takes courage because nothing is there to show you a better future. You have to have a vision. Or create a new one. You have to be willing to pull it from the shadows - Out of the darkness and into a place where it can be made whole. You yourself have to give it form and breathe life into it. You are literally working your will over circumstances to create opportunity and success. This is terrifying, because success or destruction is within your hands. Consistency is key. It takes time, though. Continual action - the right action - over time will lead to success. It takes fortitude, as well - Guts and staying power. It's scary to look down that road. Especially when you’re standing in the shadow of failure. One slip, one misstep is all it takes, And it all falls out from under you. It takes attitude; To hold fast, Adapt, Find a way, Or create one where there was none. Better to opt out - quit. Get ahead of the game and stay safe. The problem is, When you give up, you sell out on yourself. You fault on all you’ve invested. When you give up, you fault on everyone who's invested in you. You fault on everyone and anyone who looks to you as an example. You lose your credibility. To yourself. To everyone around. You leave your life. You give it back over to consumption and dependency. Fearing too much the burning heat of action, risk, and reward. Stepping back to hide within the cool shadow of failure. Nothing will ever soothe the feeling inside; The gnawing agony of giving up. No amount of security, safety, or comfort Will make up for what you lost. It is like a small bandage on a large, hemorrhaging wound. The bleeding never stops.  I hate this time of year.
This is the time of year when people give up on themselves and give in to letting go of any sense of control, thinking they’ll play catch up later. Weak ass shit. As someone whose job relies on helping others improve themselves and get better - it is increasingly frustrating, and even heartbreaking, to see people care so little for themselves that they're completely OK with putting off improving and being better until a more convenient time. There is no convenient time. It’s life. There's always going to be things that get in the way. There's always going to be busyness. There’s always going to be an obstacle, a hurdle, a THING. The holidays shouldn't be a time where you're stressed because of the running around - the finding gifts, the parties, the dinners, the time with friends and family. These things are blessings. These things are gifts to be thankful for. They are additions that make your life fuller. The holidays should be things that enhance your life - not make it too busy or more stressful. You're doing it wrong. If you can't figure out how to make time for what's important now - if you can't figure out how to get past your schedule and your so-called busyness now - when are you ever going to? You will forever be subject to the external circumstances pressing in on you. You will forever be a victim - never, ever really in control of what happens to you or what your outcome is. You will always be the product of some other person, or some other circumstance, or some other thing that just won't allow you to get what you want. You’ll always be subject to "if only…" You’ll always be weak. You’ll always be a victim. I've had people talk to me about how I own my own space - I own my own gym. "What's that like?" "It must be nice." "Look at you." "Look where you’re at." "You've got this space." What they don't see is all the behind the scenes. What they don't see is how far out I've put myself. What they don't see is the sacrifices I've made. What they don't see is the sacrifices my family’s had to make. What they don’t know is how far I still have to go. You know what? No one cares. No one cares about my shit. Guess what... No one cares about your shit either. It's your cross. You can either carry it, or be crucified on it. The choice is yours. Manage yourself, start doing great things, and work toward being something great. OR Quit. Give up. Be the victim - the martyr to circumstance. Either way - be perfectly clear and honest with yourself and everyone else. You most definitely have a choice.  Jackie (pictured above) had family visiting last week, so only made it in on Friday to train with me.
Her plan was to drop in at a local gym to hit the other 2 sessions, and not miss training. She only made it for one. I sent her the percentages for the lifts she would do on her own. She covered both lifts in that one session, setting a personal record in one of them - the Press - on her own. Her upper body pressing and pulling strength is something we've spent the past few months working on. Her PR on Wednesday was 5lbs over the top weight I gave her. She wanted to see what it felt like. She reported that "it went right up." Progress is addicting. It will keep you on track when it gets inconvenient to train. Progress builds confidence. Confidence helps you to see a greater vision for yourself to push toward. Create a vision for yourself. Find a path that will lead you to it. Commit to that without fail. If you do those 3 things for a year, 2018 will close on a very different you.  With Thanksgiving just past, THE HOLIDAY SEASON has officially begun.
This is normally a time when people give in to the busyness of the season - real or perceived, and put off training the body and mind and eating like an adult until after the New Year - when things calm down to a more routine pace. This is weak, plain and simple. You need to manage your life - regardless of what's happening around you. Waiting for the New Year to start improving yourself is, literally, insane. If you're unhappy or unsatisfied with any aspect of yourself, why would you put off taking steps to change? A.) Laziness B.) Fear C.) Apathy D.) Inertia of the status quo I can't help you if your answer falls in one the first three. No one can. If that's you, and you're not satisfied with where you are, then you need to change your attitude and thought pattern. If, on the other hand, the inertia of the same routine and expectation is what keeps you from taking action toward bettering yourself, let me offer you some clarity. Most people who are not already involved in some disciplined form of training, eating, and living will gain around 5-10 lbs over the holidays. The extra weight gain (which they'll struggle to lose in the New Year), along with the absence of a sense of control will cause a low level of guilt, frustration, and disappointment without having any counter in their life to offset it. The conditioned response - once the holidays are over - is to jump at the easiest and least expensive fitness and weight loss option promising the fastest results. Most of these resolution exercisers will fail and drop out of whatever they're doing within the first 2-3 months. Many who last beyond that will start to trail off as the weather turns warmer and Spring turns to Summer. These people will remain trapped in this cycle of mediocrity - never seeing any real or lasting change to their bodies or their minds. They never had the understanding of commitment to begin with. Doing anything when it comes easy requires little to nothing of you. It has little value attached to it. When something costs you - whether it's time, money, effort, or all three, it begins to mean something to you. Seeing results is important. Results are why you invested. Results show you that you're moving in the right direction. What those results cost you, however - the time, money, and effort - are what anchor you to the process. Letting it slip means your effort was in vain. The more you sacrificed to get there, the more you let fall from your grasp. So you push on and continue to progress. The commitment to the process - the effort it takes to do what is necessary - is what separates you from the status quo. In case you haven't been paying attention - The status quo is a disappointment. This year, you can do the same thing, and let external circumstances dictate what you do to make yourself better. You won't be alone. There will be plenty of company. OR You can do something different this year. Start getting better now.  I think a lot of people struggle with maintaining consistency in at least one area of their life. They have a good run starting a new habit or practice until something inevitably comes along that disrupts their routine.
Their momentum gets broken and they have a hard time getting back in it. This leads to frustration, discouragement, and depression. It's kind of like pushing or pulling a heavy sled or vehicle. The worst thing you can do - especially when you're getting fatigued- is stop. It's easier to keep the load moving than to break inertia to get it started again. Most stop because they feel they've run out of strength and stamina, or the motivation or inspiration just isn't there. Strength and stamina are developed by pushing farther than before, over and over. Motivation and inspiration rely on emotion and opportunity. Discipline relies on habit and integrity. Discipline requires you to set standards and goals and find a way to meet them. Discipline will keep you pushing forward through discomfort and fatigue. Setting goals and meeting them will keep you focused and on task, while building your confidence. Consistent repetition will build strength and staying power in that practice. Create a vision of yourself - give it purpose and power, and let it drive you to develop the mindset and habits to lead you to success. |
AuthorEric Chasko is the head of Redemption. He is a Performance Enhancement Specialist, Certified Underground Strength Coach, Progressive Fighting Systems Full Instructor, and Blauer Tactical Systems SPEAR: Personal Defense Readiness Trainer. From young athletes to busy professionals, he helps people develop the physical, mental, and emotional strength to win on the field, on the street, and in life. Archives
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