We spend a lot of time focused on the past - what we didn't do, what we should've done, etc.
Maybe we didn't make the best decisions.
Maybe we didn't do the right things back then to position us for where we want to be right now.
Maybe we feel like we wasted a lot of our time - a lot of our life.
I know this thought process and these feelings intimately.
The problem isn't thinking or feeling this way - that's natural.
The problem is acting like it's a life sentence - like you've ruined your life, and it's over.
Every thing you do is a choice. Everything.
Maybe you don't like your job, but you keep going anyway.
That's a choice you're making.
I know, you've got bills to pay.
So make another choice - figure out how to pay your bills by doing something you like better.
I don't want to be another guy telling you to quit your job to find happiness. That's not my point.
My point is that each day is a series of choices for you.
If you don't like where you are, who you are, or what you are doing, and you do nothing to alter
the situation, YOU ARE CHOOSING TO STAY THE SAME.
If you are unhappy - if you feel you have wasted time, wasted life, wasted resources, gotten
yourself into a bad spot - then do something to change it.
Use those feelings, that regret, that desire for something better to fuel you and drive you
Do one thing today to change a habit you don't like, or create a new one you want to have.
I've made it a point to write on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday mornings.
Most of the time, I'm writing late at night to make that deadline.
Last night, I was unable to write, and I failed to have myself setup beforehand.
I dropped the ball.
Do I give up? Do I start letting myself slide because it's hard to always keep a deadline?
No. Here I am writing.
Instead of having had this to read this morning, you'll have it to read tonight, and I'll have
further reinforced my habit of writing regularly, while having a lesson in being prepared for
circumstances where I'm not able to write the night before.
The good thing about mistakes is they show you what not to do, but they're only helpful if you
learn the lesson.
The same can be said about thoughts and behavior.
If circumstances show you who you really are, and that turns out to be someone you don't like,
then choose to be different, and take action.
You're only truly stuck if you allow yourself to be. There is always a way, you just have to want
If you find yourself lamenting, whining, and crying instead of doing, then maybe it's time to ask
yourself what you really want.
Here's the thing, though - It's not too late to start working on where you want to be.
If you need help, hit me up. I'm here for you.
Eric Chasko is the head of Redemption Fight Club. He is a Performance Enhancement Specialist and Progressive Fighting Systems Full Instructor. From young athletes to busy professionals, he helps people develop the physical, mental, and emotional strength to win on the field, on the street, and in life.